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Suicides have become the most pressing social problem facing St Lucia today.
It simply is appalling the number of people who are opting to end their lives..
But most alarming is the fact that as a nation, we have done nothing to try to determine the cause of this new problem in our midst. Apart from a few professional people appearing on television with bits of advice, we seem to have accepted that suicide must now become a way of life, or rather, a way of death, in St Lucia.
There is no question, however, that something needs to be done to bring this matter under some kind of control. It is a serious indictment on a country when so many of its citizens are taking their own lives, for whatever reason.
We need to hear from the people with power, the government, about this development. Is the government aware of what is going on? It does not seem so judging by the fact that there has been no official reaction that we can recall, far less a promise to attempt to halt the trend.
What do you, the reader, think? Tell us. Why are so many of our people taking their lives and what can be done about it?
~~Red Smith ~~
Voice of the sucidal one
Speaking to people who want to commit suicide is a very difficult task
Because they have many questions to ask…..
They ask>>>>
What am I living for when my life is nothing but a gate to hell’s door?
Why am I on ‘earth’ when my mom regrets she gave ‘birth’ to me
And I can’t even live happily?
Why do I live when I have memories of being molested at six
And now I have the wrong idea about sex?
Why, I ask why?
Why do I trust these people who go ahead and share my secrets
And now I’m down and only smoking cigarettes ?
Why do people speak of falling in love
When everytime I try i get injured and have a slow recovery
Why do people always want to share sympathy
When all they do is back-stab me?
I’m fed up and can’t take it anymore.
My life is shattered,
I plead to see my blood
All over the place
While I walk to Satan’s palace
Because in this world
I don’t get silver or gold,
But tears and nights so cold.
I am the definition of bruise,
I can never enjoy myself in life’s cruise,
When others are called remarkable
I am called gullible
I NEED FREEDOM
I NEED PEACE
I NEED LOVE
I NEED A LIST, of awesome things that happened to me,
But I don’t have it
So I’m ending it
I lost
So I accept it
My misery will be over
There’s no chance of me growing older
~~~Dania~~~~~
This is actually well spoken #truth….We as a whole country we pay less attention to the ones who commit suicide for some petty reasons that can be solved easily….We hear and see on the media the news about suicide and how it is affecting others….But we see nothing to do but to accuse the ones who commit it. These people who commit suicide are people who are troubled at home or were abused from a small age,and those who were used for slaves whilst growing up…so we really don’t have to blame the people who commit suicide…. These people need us as youth to be spoken to,and how we could help them out…(press for the changes youth members) complaining wonthelp,if only we set our minds to it and say Ok I will seek attention for those who need it,and see how I could help them out….This is really starting to infuriate people..
~~~~Wilton~~~~
Good piece and expression of feelings.
It speaks for the many persons who never had the chance to echo how they felt and call out for help. Hope that it aids someone in realizing that they’re not alone in the struggle but a new day brings new opportunities.
Good job !
~~~~Wiseman~~~~
Suicide is harder to understand than murder because the killer is also the victim. I personally believe that positivity can help. Big up someone anytime they do something
~~~~Olive~~~~
One way of helping out:::::::::NOT KEEPING IT A SECRET::::If someone tells you that you need to keep his or her suicidal intentions a secret, then you never can keep that a secret. Under no circumstances can you not violating a privileged communication; you are taking the steps necessary to prevent a suicide. That is an expression of love, caring, and deep concern, and is the only ethical choice in a situation as serious as this.
~Sol Soowi~
I have difficulty in accepting that there are conditions in our country that would prompt a person to take his or her life. For starters a person ought to love himself or herself first and foremost, and if you do not love your own self how can you love another?
Still, there ought to be services in our country that people who are contemplating suicide can tap into for help. The fact that even with so many suicides, we are seeing no real emphasis on making such services available is frightening. There is a problem in our land and there must be solutions to this problem.
The government must demonstrate that it is aware of this problem and spend some money in trying to provide alternatives. You cannot be spending money on highways and massive buildings when your people are suffering.
~~~~ Ella ~~~~
Many might say that the Government of St. Lucia can’t help in suicide but they can start campaigns to increase public awareness of suicide as a preventable problem, to develop broad based support for prevention efforts, and to reduce stigma.
Media education is needed to improve reporting and portrayals of suicide in the media.
Training for caregivers to improve recognition of at-risk behaviour and delivery of effective treatments, incorporation of licensing standards for professional caregivers and also development and promotion of effective clinical and professional practices
~~~~Fix it Jesus ~~~~~
There are times in life when we might feel totally depressed, flabbergasted with emotional pain. It can seem like there is no other way out of our problems, we’ve run out of possible solutions. Our hitches seem unfixable. The pain feels like it will never end. We believe we’ve run out of options, and suicide is the only answer left. Maybe the suicidal thoughts come to mind; you might have mixed feelings about them. They’re frightening and befuddling. For some people, suicide may be a way of getting back at others, or showing them how much pain you’re in. But after suicide, you won’t be there to see that they feel guilty, or finally understand your pain. Feelings will pass. Depression feels everlasting, but it’s temporary. Things will change. Depression comes and it goes. It is a impermanent crisis, an attempt to stop the inner pain. You will get through this tunnel and come out the other side. The feelings will pass!
~~~Depressed~~~
Some people like myself get depressed to the point where they believe things would be better off without them and that suicide would end either their own or everyone else’s problems.
~~Love~~
I never thought of doing it. I had problems when I was younger that I thought I cannot handle but never was a suicide a solution that I thought of, Plus they say you’ll go straight to hell if you commit it-that means you’ll be burned and though already a spirit, you’ll feel it. not being religious just being afraid!
~~~~Shishi~~~~
There is a ton of reasons why people want to take their lives. But, for some people it is an escape because they are unable to cope, and feel that they need to end it all. However, if someone calls the paramedics in the middle of an attempt, the rest of it gets ugly. There’s crying, tubes all over the place, induced black vomit, and then you are shot off to a mental hospital.
~~~~Life Lover~~~~
I am only guessing but when things seem like too much to bear – such as losing loved ones, etc. their depression can be more than they can handle at that moment.
If they can be delayed for a few days then life may look a little brighter and such thoughts may fly away.
I really disagree with those who say that they are taking the coward’s way out and are talking from no experience of such pains.
We normally all fear death and will do just about anything to stay afloat.
Their pain must be very deep whether mental or physical.
I don’t believe that suicide bombers do it so they can get to heaven/virgins, etc. They must be suffering from tremendous pain/torture that we may not know about.
Just try to think of what could possibly make you, yourself take your own life –
The Japanese did it with suicide pilots, etc. It is not a religious option that we are being forced to believe.
Well, these are just a few reasons that I can come up with for being suicidal.
I think that love might help – but not always.
~Sheena Labadie~
I tend to disagree with those who lay blame on the government in a situation like this one. Whilst they do need to play a part in funding facilities for these people to go to for counselling etc, I think that the bigger problem lies with the individuals themselves. As a person who studies psychology but on the flip side, have been suicidal, there are many aspects of this topic that quite frankly, governments can’t touch. What can the government do about failed relationships and heartache, grief over the death of a loved one, depression due to illnesses like bi-polar disorder etc? It’s not all about money and the economy so we need to cut it out with that kind of thinking.
To those who judge the ones who have gone that route, I’ll tap into the famous; “Since when that’s your role?” No one knows their limit and believe me when I say this…EVERYONE has a limit…we simply never know what can push us over the edge no matter how strong one’s faith may be. At the end of the day, we are human beings…part of the animal kingdom and there are elements that could make all human logic fly right out the window and cause animal instincts to take over (and yes, animals kill themselves or simply give up on life when they get too stressed out).
Suicide is a difficult topic to put your fingers on but some of the biggest helps is having someone, anyone, sometimes even a perfect stranger to talk to, an outlet is needed. Many people think that the suicidal individuals are keeping their thoughts a secret but I can attest to the fact that this notion is wrong…sometimes you could be surrounded by people yet feel extremely lonely and that is why it is so tricky. these people need to feel comfortable enough to trust those they are around…they don’t want people to tell them what to do and how to do it, nor do they want anyone telling them “I told you so” etc…just a neutral, non-judgmental ear and shoulder could go faaaar and this is where it all starts. We as a nation need to be more understanding as well…we tend to be hard nuts who close our minds off to the “little things” and we’re quick to “lay it on the lord”. I’m a Christian woman but I know that there are times when we need to take action rather than sit and watch things happen all whilst waiting for the hand of God to swoop down and stop mishaps dead in their tracks. If you know that someone needs help, try to be more understanding and sympathetic instead of making them feel worse or sending them retreating deeper into their shells.
Sighhhh I could go on and on because like they say, who feels it knows but I’ll just say, before pointing fingers, maybe we should put those hands down and open our eyes, minds and hearts a bit more because the solution is closer to home than you may think.
~~~~ Apple~~~~
It’s a tragedy that so many people see no other alternative to what they are going through other than suicide. There is a need for greater support for suicidal persons, and this support can start with each individual. Let us be our brother’s keeper. If we see someone struggling, let us ask if they are okay and try to help them if they say no they aren’t up to it. Too often we either miss or ignore the cries for help.
~Alice~
I always wonder if suicide is a crime and who will be arrested for it, after one has taken his or her life.
I seriously thought it was a crime to commit suicide. Wasn’t there a law; anyone who attempted and failed could be prosecuted and imprisoned, while the families of those who succeeded could also potentially be prosecuted. I was reading something last week on the web and came across this.
“So why do some people think that people choose to die by suicide?
Answer: ignorance.
Many people (including some who are supposed to be “professionals” in the area of suicide, psychology, and religion) maintain the misguided, ignorant, outdated — and idiotic — belief that people “choose” suicide.
Over 90 percent of the people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death. And the vast majority of those mental illnesses are untreated, under-treated, or not properly treated.
People who die by suicide are not thinking clearly — and they cannot possibly think clearly — because their brain is not functioning properly at the time they pass away from suicide.
Their brain is giving them overwhelming signals to die.
They have a chemical imbalance in their brain, are in extreme emotional pain, and their mind is saying “you must die by suicide to end this.”
Again — it is an overwhelming condition.
They do not “choose” do die — their mental illness causes them to die — just like some people die from heart disease, cancer, or other things that are out of their control.
And every time an ignorant person makes the statement that “people choose to die by suicide” the stigma of suicide is perpetuated. “
Now it have me thinking.
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