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17th July 2010
RELATIONSHIP: Facebook And The Green Monster
Sherlana Ernest

You want to know what’s happening in your neck of the woods. Forget the late night news; you can check your Facebook! You want to find out where your friend is having a party? You can check your Facebook! You want to advertise your business; you can let Facebook handle that! One cannot begin to list the range of activities and features that dynamic Facebook possesses. Thus it seems unavoidable that some persons may find some difficulty.
What started with a group of college students wanting to keep in touch with one another grew into a social network so huge that it currently links nations and nationalities all over the globe. For those who aren’t apart of Facebook, it may be a wonder as to what all the fuss is. Yet one can’t help but notice that Facebook has successfully infiltrated the fabric of the lives of all its users.
And so the question of whether personal relationships and Facebook can co-exist. There may be countless hearts that were broken as a result of a Facebook fight. These victims range from teenagers to adults. With some of the results being divorce or explosive break-ups. But is Facebook to blame?
For instance, a married woman received a call from one of her daughters, saying that there were pictures of her (the daughter’s) father and some other female who was clearly not his wife. These incriminating pictures were, of course, on Facebook for all and sundry to glimpse. Let’s just say the situation ended badly. So badly, that after a terribly confrontation, the marriage between husband and wife ended in a bad divorce. The wife had discovered that the husband had been out somewhere with his other ‘woman’ and that someone had accidentally captured them having fun. The candid-camera moment was then plastered on Facebook for all to see. One cannot help but ponder did Facebook help or hurt?
With regards to Facebook and relationships, jealousy is a growing concern. Ladies become jealous when boyfriends add other pretty girls onto their (the boyfriends’) Facebook accounts. And the men get jealous as well, especially when girlfriends/spouses add ex-lovers. Is there no way to not go mad when you’re in a relationship and on Facebook?

 
 

According to Psychcentral.com writer, John M. Grohol, “Facebook may expose an individual to potentially jealousy-provoking information about their partner, which creates a feedback loop whereby heightened jealousy leads to increased surveillance of a partner’s Facebook page. Persistent surveillance results in further exposure to jealousy-provoking information.”
In his article entitled, Facebook Reinforces Relationship Jealousy, Grohol quoted researchers (Muise et al), who created ‘their own specialized quiz for the study, called the Facebook Jealousy scale.’
“The scale is composed of 27 items that are measured on a 7-point scale from “very likely” to “very unlikely” that assess Facebook-related jealousy,” wrote Grohol. “According to the study, sample items include “How likely are you to become jealous after your partner has added an unknown member of the opposite sex?” and “How likely are you to monitor your partner’s activities on Facebook?” The researchers (Muise et al., 2009) collected the data for this study as a part of a larger study being conducted on Facebook.
“In their study sample, the researchers found that most of the people surveyed spent about 40 minutes/day on Facebook and had somewhere between 25 and 1,000 “friends” on Facebook, with the mean being about 300. Did you know most of us add previous boyfriends or girlfriends to our Facebook friends?
“Not surprisingly, the researchers found that if you’re more likely to be a jealous person (what psychologists call “trait jealousy”), you’re more likely to have “Facebook jealousy” too. Women were more likely to be jealous than men. And here’s the kicker — time spent on Facebook contributed a tiny part to Facebook jealousy. (Women spend more time on Facebook than men.)”
Many may just agree with Grohol, who believes that, “The key thing to keep in mind is that Facebook isn’t going to cause someone who wasn’t jealous in the first place to become jealous. The researchers’ findings only show that if you’re a pretty jealous person to begin with, the more time you spend on Facebook, the more jealous you’re likely to become.”

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